1. It gets better with time. Don’t expect this to happen overnight. It will most likely be slower than you have hoped for. But day by day, week by week, month by month, it gets better with time.
   
2. Don’t contact them. Deep inside you know why. No contact is like the law of gravity when it comes to getting over somebody. Just don’t. You know why.
   
3. Unfriend, unfollow and block them on social media. This one is obvious.
   
4. Recover actively. When you get sick, do you just passively do the same thing as you were doing before you got sick? No, you take active rest, you go see a doctor, take medication to get better. Your recovery will be a lot faster if you build and stick to a productive schedule, set goals, workout and socialize. Be productive and implement structure in your life. It’s difficult to be motivated or inspired when your heart is wrenched. Build a schedule and follow it. Let it become a habit. Recover actively.
   
5. Look at the numbers. I know your breakup is an extremely personal experience to you but most relationships, even marriages, come to an end. It is extremely normal to fall in love, fall out of love, break up and get your heartbroken. How many of us are here today? How many more people will get their heartbroken this week? It happens to all of us and it’s an experience that most people go through in their lifetime. It’s not just you.
   
6. Miss her/him? Get used to it. The truth is that you’re going to miss them for a long time. You loved them and you shared your life with them. You are going to miss them and that is so perfectly okay. Even if the time passes, even if you have moved on, they are going to cross your mind every once in a while. Are you going to text them or cry about them every time? Missing them does not mean you want them back. Get used to missing them once in a while. And that’s okay.
   
7. Remember that this is your story. You are not some ex that got left behind. Your life is your story and you are the main character. Accept that the breakup is an end of a chapter, not the book. Carefully reflect on it and move on. Where they are, who they are with, what they do from now on, does not have a place in your book anymore. Your story continues. Live on.
   
8. Remember that life is short. Given that most people desire to find someone to fall in love with, start a family together and grow old with, we only have so much time to find that someone. The reality is that the breakup probably should remind you how difficult it is to find that person because your ex wasn’t it. Every day you spend in self-pity and grief is another day wasted to find your perfect lover who is waiting for you in the future. They won’t wait for you forever and life is short. When you are ready (emphasis on ‘when’), go out there and find them before it’s too late.
   
9. This is for her/him. You loved them, right? It’s over now. Probably for the best. Whatever the reason was, it was destined to end just like it was destined to happen in the first place. If the end was inevitable, aren’t you glad that you are the one bearing the pain? Let them walk away with a bit more ease. For me, I have loved her and I’m glad she didn’t have to go through what I went through. It is the last thing I can do for someone that I have once loved. Thinking this way gave me peace.
   
10. This experience will make you a stronger person and a better lover ultimately.